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Everyone Hates Me – 7 Signs And How To Deal

“Everyone hates me” for one time or another, a person feels as if everyone around me hates me. Not all people on earth feel but the majority of people face such situations once in their lifetime. It could be in their childhood (6-12years old), teenage, or in their adult life. It is not necessary this feeling is a real situation. Mostly it is just in our minds. We feel as if we are not being loved. Hate is a very strong emotion and it has very deep and bad effects on the person who feels hatred. The question comes to mind why does everyone hate me? The reasons behind hatred could be jealousy from you or from your work, revenge, anger and annoyance, status, or any other reason.

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7 Signs Everyone Hates Me

We will look into the signs that make you believe that someone hates you.

1) People Don’t Like Your Company

When you are around a bunch of people and they tend to avoid or ignore you. Your presence is quite obvious but they are still ignoring you. The main cause of feeling bad is you don’t even know the reason behind those ignoring you. You don’t know why they are being ignorant or rude. It seems they don’t like you and don’t want to talk to you.

2) They Always Taunt You

Their behavior with you is not welcoming and if they talk to you their tone is taunting. They tend to taunt and laugh at you. One can gang up on you and make fun of you or of your appearance. Your Friends are rude and are impolite towards you or on the other hand, treat you with too much sweetness which shows as they are making fun of you.

3) They Get Angry To See You

The people who don’t like you (or in other words, it seems they hate you) gets angry with you because they don’t like to connect with you. They feel disturbed and rude when you want to talk to them. Sometime they get angry to see your reaction and wants to enjoy that moment. Whether they leave the room when you enter or it appears on their face. They often find ways to fight with you and also treat you badly.

4) You Are The First One To Call Them, Always

You are the one who calls them, who drops messages inquiring regarding their health. They never take initiative. They make excuses “Oh I was busy, I forgot to call you” or “I was thinking of calling you (but never calls)”. When they talk you they try to disconnect the call as soon as possible. They seem in a hurry or always have excuses to cut off the long talk short. This behavior makes you believe that they don’t want to talk to you or as if they hate you.

5) Your Saying Seems To Be Unimportant For Them

When you are around these people, you try to stay quiet. You never put up your opinion or have a say. You feel and believe as if no one wants to listen to you. Or your say has no value. Or you think as if they will insult you or will ignore you. Having such fear in your mind; you stay quiet and feel as if everyone around you hates you.

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6) You Need Reassurance

You feel the behavior of others is not good for you and you have so many negative thoughts in your mind. Even if they keep on telling you that it is not true, they love you, they have nothing bad in their heart for you. You need validation and reassurance again and again. There is something stuck in your mind that doesn’t let on trust their words. Sometimes actions speak louder than words. And you just cannot make someone fool by your words when your actions don’t support your words.

7) They Are Nice To You When They Need You

The most common problem with feelings of hatred is people are nice to you when they need you. But the minute they have fulfilled their needs they will forget about you. They won’t return your calls. Wouldn’t meet you warmly. Will behave as if they never asked for any favor from you. Such mean and selfish people play with the feelings of others and make them doubt humanity.

Everyone Hates Me – How To Deal With This Feeling

Maybe your thinking is not right and there are some falses from your side also. You are looking at the only side of the story and don’t consider your mistakes. You have to be careful about your behavior also.

1) Try To Understand Others’ Perspectives As Well

Sometimes it’s very important to look into the situation from others’ perspectives as well. The reaction you are thinking of as hatred could be because of some of your actions. Maybe something you said or did, is what makes them angry and hateful towards you. Or the other perspective could be the mental state of that person.

Maybe he/she is suffering a lot in his/her personal or professional life and the hatred they showed to you was the outburst of that situation. There could be many reasons. The need here is to realize and understand the fact that what their side of the story is.

2) Look Into The Around Scenario Logically

The moment in which someone showed feelings of hatred towards you is very important. Most of the time all we remember is the reaction of the person. We ignore or forget to look into the fact that what triggered that emotion. Sometimes we show hatred towards someone we love the most. It is because they are trying to let you know their feelings without saying them out loud. Or you have hurt them unknowingly that their reaction seems like hatred to you. The point is to think of the whole scenario objectively and look for the reasons behind their behavior towards you. Jumping to the conclusions and not knowing the facts and reasons behind outbursts can make the situation worse and can could some serious relationship damage.

3) Don’t Assume Onto Things

Stop assuming what others are thinking about you. In most cases where someone complains about being hated, the actual reason is their own mind. They assume others hate him. The reasons behind this thought can be: because I am richer than them; because I am poor; because I am more successful than them; because I have got what they were lodging for. Sometimes we have something in our mind and we keep on assuming the worst about it and start to believe it as reality. In return, this is our own loss. When we meet that person, we meet them with warmth and in a friendly way but right after leaving or after one or two days we again start to have negative thoughts regarding them and start to believe as if they hate us. Although this is just your illusion and nothing else.

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4) Their Deeds Are With Them, Not With You

If someone hates you for an unknown reason or for reasons that you cannot change, then let them hate you. If it is on them and does not affect you in any way then you should not even bother them. Remember those who keep hatred in their hearts are not satisfied in their life. To live happily and to feel peace and satisfaction in life it is very important to spread happiness and love.

  • If their hatred is hurting you or causing you trouble then you must take some action to prevent it.
  • Ignore them
  • If they are making fun of you in gatherings then answer them with peace and dignity, this will show them down.
  • If they taunt you indirectly, like “Oh some people have on dressing sense, can’t believe no one told them that it’s out of fashion” Tell them indirectly that “don’t you think it is quite indecent to comment on someone’s dressing/appearance” or you can say “I believe they look beautiful in that dress better to look pretty in old fashioned clothes than to look dumb in following whatever is trending” this will be a good answer to their face and will give you satisfaction as well.

5) When To Seek Professional Help?

If you feel that everyone hates you for unknown reasons. And you have tried everything including meditation, exercise, talking to a close friend, or trying to sort out the problem by yourself. You are feeling depressed, tense, anxious, and sad. Feels lonely and empty. Then you can consult a psychologist or psychiatrist. There is no shame or harm in seeking professional help. As it is a matter of your well-being, no compromise should be made. Your health, well-being, and safety come first.

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Conclusion

Hate is a feeling that no one wants to feel. Always try to figure out if these feelings have some real basis or if it is just your imagination. Secondly sort out if the one hating you has any importance in your life or is just a third person, for whom you have no place in your life. If professional help is required never shy from getting it. Take care of yourself and those around you. Spread love and stay away from hate.