8 Signs Your Ex Is Pretending To Be Over You

The love-hate relationship goes hand in hand. Sometimes we find someone that we think is the one for us, and then due for some reason, we couldn’t hold onto them and break up. In this article, we will discuss signs your ex is pretending to be over you. Life is unpredictable, and so are our relationships. Couples when they are just getting along with each other, tend to like everything about each other. They ignore their partner’s mistakes, lies, and mood swings. They are so much in love that the other person looks like a perfect match for them.

Signs Your Ex Is Pretending To Be Over You

What are the signs your ex is pretending to be over you? They still have feelings for you or they want reconciliation with you. Why? Because maybe they have realized they can’t live without you or life was far better with you or they are now done with their other commitments (studies, career formation) and they still have feelings for you.

But with time when it becomes difficult to just live by love and you start to get out of your fantasy world, you tend to get angry and irritated by all the things you were avoiding lately about your partner. Life is a roller coaster and so are your relationships. Some people get through difficult times holding by each other and some just part ways. Breakups could have a number of reasons.

  • The Unmatchable personalities
  • Understanding problems
  • The Unbearable fights
  • Cheating
  • Lies
  • Families don’t get along
  • You can’t marry your partner because he/she is not marriage material
  • To focus on a career
  • To complete their studies

These are just a few examples. There could be a number of other reasons as well.

A couple walking in a forest - signs your ex is pretending to be over

8 Signs Your Ex Is Pretending To Be Over You

What makes your partner be pretending on the fact that he is over you? The question that comes to mind is why are you curious if your ex is pretending to be over or if he is actually moved on in life? Do you know why? Because you still have feelings for him and you are just looking for a sign your ex is pretending to be over you. Let’s move towards the signs that he is pretending to be over you. 

  1- Trying to make you feel jealous:

You and your ex are in the same class, school, college, office, neighborhood, and family (cousins). It’s a very easy and foremost trick that a person adopts to see if the other person is also having the same feelings for me or not. Jealousy is a feeling that can be clearly shown on your face and can be used as a tool against others to take revenge or to find out if the love is still there or has just vanished away.

Now let’s look at the tactics of how your ex could be making you jealous.

Whenever you are in front of your ex:

  •  Pretend to be extra happy and laugh out loud with whomever he is having conversations with.
  • Smile and blush while looking at his mobile screen and keep on texting as well.
  • He is with some other girl and is pretending to be having a good time there.
  •  Ignoring you purposely and pretending as if you are not even there.
  •  Trying to show you he is better off without you.

Disclaimer: All these signs can be considered as signs if he does it in front of you and otherwise he tends to be less happy than he is showing you off. You can get to know if he is the same behind your back as well, you need to have someone involved with you in this plan of yours. It could be your friend/s, sibling/s, or his/her friend. 

a girl looking at her boy friend from back - signs your ex is pretending to be over

2- Can’t take His eye off you:

When someone is still in love with you or he wants to give his relationship another chance then he would look for ways to get back at you. To get a chance to talk to you or even just to have a glance of yours. Whenever you get a chance to cross paths with your ex you find him looking at you. It’s not necessarily always making clear eye contact but looking at you when you are not looking at them. When you are busy doing some work or having fun with your friends or eating food. He must find a chance to look at you so as to take your recent memory with them.

How will you know if he is looking at you or not?

A human’s senses are quite strong enough to judge anyone without even looking that someone is watching them. Girls have this power stronger than boys. So, boys would need to take help from their friends to conform to this for them. Besides looking at you when you are not watching, he could also choose to watch you straight in your eyes. He might not show his love for you but if you are smarter enough to judge then you will see his love through his eyes.   

3- He is extra kind to you:

You are out shopping and you bump into your ex. He meets you with a smile and behaves sophisticatedly and reserved. But all he talks about is you.

  •  He asks you what you are up to
  •  Asks about your family’s health
  •   Ask if you have come along and say that you know you can’t drive when it’s dark, why have you come alone at this time?
  •  Look at the packet of chips in your hand and tells me that you don’t like this flavor as far as I remember.
  •  Offer you help with your baggage. 
  •  Talk about you and only you.
  • Avoid talking about them.
signs your ex is pretending to be over

4- Your Ex Is angry with you:

As all the love stories don’t have a good ending same like not all the breakups happen to end on a peaceful note. Besides, most breakups happen on a very nasty note and the couple seems to have grudges against each other. The grudges, fire, and anger do cool down with time but not everyone is found to be dealing with it well. Now to know that he is pretending to be over you is whenever he crosses up with you either he leaves you space as soon as possible or ignores you so hard that his anger can be seen in that ignorance.

If he would have been moved on then his anger must have been lowered. But if he still feels the same pain as he did at the time of the breakup then he really is not over you and is still in love with you. He shows you this anger to let you know how hurt he still is and a little bit of attention, care, affection, and love can lead to reconciliation. In this case, you need to see what you want. If you also have feelings for him and you think things can work out better this time then you may take a step forward. If you think that it is over from your side and there is no way of getting down that road again then just keep moving forward and don’t get bothered by his/her anger.

This will take away the ray of hope from them and they will also try to move forward in life.

5-He/She finds reasons to meet you:

  •  Your ex is just pretending to be over you if he finds reasons to meet you over and over again.
  •  Ask for your help with some class, and office assignments.
  • He keeps on coming to you to ask you or your friends, silly questions that he pretends not to be understood in class.
  •  He will ask you if he has left his book/shirt/watch at your place back then when you guys were dating each other. All these reasons just to meet you once.

Sshhh, He is keeping something that belongs to you. Back in time when you both were dating, you left your bracelet/watch at his place, and now as you, both have broken up, you want it back. But the twist begins at the point he refuses to have it and says, he took it with him. Although you are certain you left it at his place. This is a clear sign your ex is not over you and is just pretending. He wants to keep your bracelet/watch as your memory. He doesn’t want to give it back to you. These are little things that add mileage to the fact, that there are still feelings left for you. It does not necessarily mean he wants to get back together or something but it could just mean you meant a lot to them and that he still cherishes those memories he spent with you.

6- Your ex still didn’t block you off:

Relationships have gone to a new era and mostly it all starts on social media and ends on social media. Social media confirms your relationship with someone and confirms your breakup as well. It’s a digital world. As a common practice when a couple goes through a breakup, they unfollow/unfriend each other plus also block each other from social media. Social media profiles include Facebook and Instagram. This is the complete ritual of breaking up with someone. If your ex unfriended you or you unfriended him but he still hasn’t blocked you up then it means he is still not over you. He still holds up to the hope that you might ever contact him again. So what are you waiting for….? go and unblock him and check if he blocked you back or not. 

7- His friends have eyes on you:

Friends are ready to do anything for you when you are sad or heartbroken. Your ex and his friends would do the same. Your ex will ask his friends to spy on you, follow you, look into your activities, what you do, where you go, who you meet, how are you holding up after the breakup, and whether have you moved on yet. Do you have someone else in your life now? If your ex is taking the help of his/her friends in spying over you then they are definitely not over you.

a boy hold a girl's hand

8- He keeps his routes and routine the same as before:

Mostly after the breakup, both persons try to change or avoid the routes and their daily basis routines for a while to make sure they both do not run into each other again. If your ex hasn’t changed even a bit of his routine and he still goes for a walk in the same park as before he chooses the same path for his walk as he used to choose when you both were together, knowing that you could be still coming there.  Another behavior you would notice is he won’t shy away from crossing your street or just from in front of your house. He would look for all the chances that you might show up and he gets a chance to talk to you again.  Then it can be one of the clear signs your ex is pretending to be over you.


Relationships and breakups are part of life. But if you think your breakup was a mistake and you want to see if your ex feels the same then there are some obvious and sure signs to get the idea if your ex is over you or is just pretending to be. Now it’s up to you if you judge the signs rightly or not. Do let us know if you got to find out that your ex is pretending to be over you. 

Have a blessed day and oh yes, GOOD LUCK!!